How to Stay Positive When Everyone Around You Is Negative.

It is very important to be with our friends, family and partners  when  they are experiencing a really hard time , more hard if it is something like loss of some loved one. We often see that at least one friend who throws a helluva pity-party when they're just not feeling good about themselves or the world around them. When our friends are down it is critical to take care of ourselves. It can be hard to take an emotional step back, but once you're sucked into that black hole of negativity, it can be even harder to fight your way out.

Contagiousness is a surprising power of Emotions-

Have we ever thought, why someone else's moods can affect us so much? A study made last year found that teens whose association is mainly negative friends also found their moods to worsen over time, a process known as social contagion.

Kate Dow, Ph.D., a psychologist says “there are mirror neurons in our brain which are purposely created so that we become able to feel what someone else is feeling” and “ when a sensitive person feels another person’s emotions then that situation becomes an open door to take up that person's feelings and not being able to have a sense of self, to hold onto."

Jonathan Alpert, psychotherapist and author of “Be Fearless: Change Your Life in 28 Days.” said “Our nervous system has been made that way. We try to connect to people, and we do that first by picking up on how they feel and then bringing a level of understanding and support. So when your Facebook friend from high school or your coworker is counteracting everything you say with a negative remark, here are some tips from life experts to keep your sanity intact.

1.       Find the direction of movement of your mind

“If you are thinking negative due to the situation your friend is in, then be sure that you have started thinking positive”, Dow says.

2.       Dow suggests giving yourself a pep talk before going in—one that acknowledges the fact that you're going to face this person, that they will be upset, and end with an affirmation stating that you will choose not to take on their emotions. This way, you can have more perspective on your friend's situation and you'll give yourself more of a choice about whether or not to be upset, Dow says.

3.       "If someone is complaining all the time and you're agreeing with them, it may not be so healthy," says Alpert. Offer an alternative way to look at solutions.

Of course, this advice is only good for smaller irritations—if your friend is going through something life-altering, it's good to let them talk about their feelings as much as they may need to.

4.       Alpert says ‘we do not have more than what we can give to others. Be sure you're taking care of yourself and your needs are met. When we are surrounded with friends and loved one’s drama, we may slip from the duties to ourselves. If we are unable to spend time for others, it does not mean that we are selfish. It’s self-care or our responsibilities to ourselves.

5.       If you remain busy with other’s sufferings, all the time, then you are inviting problems for yourself. "If you don't take a break, your brain and body are experiencing high-stress stakes constantly, it can lead to find you sick," Dow says.

6.       As far as you appreciate your own capabilities, you are going to get a positive mind. A study performed at the University of Miami found a link between gratitude and happiness. Two groups wrote something every day about their lives: One group focused on things they were grateful for; the other, their irritations. The participants who wrote about gratitude felt happier and better about themselves after ten weeks than the group who focused on griping. And like negativity, gratitude spreads.

7.       When we're in a bad mood, we can't help but continue to beat ourselves down. Try pushing the negative self-doubt away by giving yourself a compliment. "Positive focus helps support our positive mindset," Dow says.

8.       We do not like to break up with a friend, but if someone is bringing a lot of negativity into your life— you should reevaluate whether or not you want to spend time with them. It's an extreme case, but at times, it's necessary. Figure out how much this friend means to you and how important it is to maintain that friendship, Dow says.